NO End Of The Road For Anything
No end of the road for anything ?
Sounds funny doesn’t it…?
Well.. for every cause and problems.. there is always a solution. There will never be a situation whereby you can’t resolve anything.
It is however… the knowledge that you possess and sometimes.. even stepping out of your comfort zone that the solution lies.
I did blog about embracing failure in the previous post… because it is in failure that you grow. So.. in time to come.. you will have the much needed experience to deal with anything the world comes throwing at you.
One of the things that most people face is money… yes.. I know.. its never enough… unless of course… you have a billion dollars in your bank account.. but then.. when you are at that stage.. maybe.. you will think that a billion dollars isn’t enough… who knows… =P
So… I have friends who have problems with their finance and went to borrow from other friends…
In normal context.. or rather… in an environment we are brought up… it seems like if we don’t help them.. we are not “brothers” enough…
Sadly… I learned that the hard way… but nonetheless… what I want to say is that problems.. even financially.. can be solved… but not through charity or “brotherhood” – Maybe.. it really is an asian kind of though with all the Ekin Cheng shows and all…
I used to lend friends or close friends the spare cash I saved… but as months turn to years… they never return them… sometimes.. even worse… I felt bad about asking them for it… and you know.. as years turn to ages.. they forgot about it.
Interesting enough… you see them buying cars… and don’t have enough to return you the loans… because.. unfortunately.. now that they have a car… they have an issue they need to handle… to finance their car… so.. when is it your turn ?
As I grew.. it made me realize that financial problems are self inflicted.. and money is all over the place… and for every bad financial decision made… you just have to bear the consequences to resolve it yourself.. and not through friend’s charity.. and it is through the resolving.. that one will learn not to make that mistake again.
Taken for granted.. once you lend them the cash… they will never learn from the experience.. because.. the problems is solve through “borrowing” from others…
So.. what I did now… was to employ my friends who ask for money… first… they get the cash they need… but through working their butts off… second.. I get my web properties built out for a great discount… all in all.. its a win win situation.
The bonus is.. they don’t have to pay me back… and they will learn not to fall into the situation again… and as for me.. well… I saved my time and can use them on something more productive.
Other situations applies like.. you can pay them to wash your cars, run errands… and because they are moving out of comfort zone.. it never was easy for them… and because its hard.. they would never want to fall into that financial trap again and would think twice on how they spend in the near future… cruel as it may seem… you did help them get out of the huge hole.
I don’t know if you agree… but that’s how I see it… There is no end of the road for anything… as long as you are able to get off your butt and work on it !