and so its decided…. Me and my wife will be holding a wedding banquet…
As of the location, we seriously hope to get what we want… but until then, lets keep this a hush hush because… we have already changed 3 locations.. haha, Novotel, Grand Park and Crown Plaza.. so.. the next one still remains a mystery until proven otherwise.
As we look towards that day, it seems pretty interesting and very exciting… a bit brainstorming here and there because I suppose.. all couples wants it to be perfect… and being the very egoistic person.. I suppose I want it to be far more beautiful and memorable to all my guest who is attending.
While I am traditionally chinese, my thoughts and actions prove to be moving away from chinese traditions because I seriously don’t think they are worth keeping and certainly don’t make any sense at all.
ie, I need to invite relatives whom I don’t exactly like and even some other relatives whom I dun know at all. I mean… what has my wedding got to do with ya if i don’t even know you or that I’ve only seen you once in my life… (and I am paying for it…)
What if.. one day… when I am in trouble or in some critical moments of life.. will you be there or even care ?
I doubt so… so.. why the hell am I inviting you to “share my joy” and sometimes.. even pay for your food when your ang paos dun even cover. I mean.. for those whom I knew and really close to, I dun really mind.. but for those who is a total stranger (never see before or… seen you once when I was 2 years or… relative de relative de relative)… hey.. don’t you think its something that is so stupid and yet many people still follows it ???
Its laughable… and as much as I dun want to, my dad did gave me 6 tables of unknown friends and relatives that needs to be invited. Well.. hes my dad and if that makes him happy(important to me), sometimes… I just have to do it.. even if I dun exactly feel its logical.
I just think that traditionally… so of the practices should be aborted, modified and improved. Traditions may be important but ultimately… its all a “monkey see, monkey do thing”.
Who started it all ? Well.. maybe like few thousand years ago some smart alec or guy start doing it and others just copy and think its nice or appropriate.. gosh… and I guess that spread the tradition and it got passed down as the “right” thing to do..
I mean.. come on.. its not as if some divine being came down and say – “This is the way to do it and you will get the blessings”…
The “inventor” must be laughing his way to see everyone follow him as he becomes the “expert”… funny right ? and whoever says about customs and beliefs.. ya right… have you ever seen someone who spent a fortune getting his auspicious dates calculated by fortune tellers, set up all the “must do” and beliefs… end up divorcing and all…
Still think some old chinese practices are that important ??
Oh by the way… since I am a marketing person… do you know that traditionally, wedding rings don’t come with diamonds and all… it is when someone sells diamonds uses rings as a marketing “ploy” that it somehow shoots up the price of these gems and have all girls going ga ga over them.. becoming a “must have” for all wedding rings.. (Yes… 2mm stones that cost you almost a month of your salary or more)
Well… I am not saying don’t buy la… if it makes your wife happy, get one for her.. afterall she is the one and only.. but what I am trying to say is… some things are started based on “nothing” but people still blindly follow them.. and chinese have many of such practices.
One of the more famous one is “don’t point to the moon or you’ll get your ear cut…” something as absurd as that… now if that gets you thinking who started this “phrase”, maybe.. it’ll get you thinking =)
Well… honestly speaking, banquets are one of these practices (Chinese usually hold banquets because of the village layouts where everybody know each other and invited for sit downs to celebrate.. again.. everybody know each other since its a small village – ie, you dun get some dunno whos who coming).. which is why me and my wife decided to not hold them… but instead, hold a small party for all our friends and relatives whom we care. (Like americans and europeans), which makes more sense..
But after some sparks of fury from her side… and I guess.. some pressure from my mum side and a little of my own ego (spark by my wife side and my side), we decide to go along with one.
and since we will be having one… it has to be perfect… and I foresee a lot of planning and stuff to go on in the next few months…
If you have to do it… do it good… one that people will talk about for years to come…
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